They're young men now, but it's hard to remember to call them that.
He has big shoulders and is always willing to take a little more of the load but I'm always aware that it adds up.
What do you need less of? Want to let go of?
xox
If you're looking for tips on shoulder-in, this will be pretty darn disappointing.
By the end of the fourth day my head was feeling pretty full. So much to learn, and such a great teacher with Charley Snell.
Sitting together in the morning sharing a cup of coffee over horse thoughts, talk turned to how horses feel in new environments. We all talk about 'my horse does fine until....or my horse isn't comfortable in new places'...
Charley put on his serious face and shared what he feels is the key to all this. That the horse looks to us for a place of peace.
Us.
"Any little thing you can do to help the horse feel good inside adds to this whole thing."
It's not about a different environment or a change in scenery. It's about how we help them feel no matter what's going on, no matter where they are. Really comes into perspective when you think about how this looking to you and finding peace there becomes particularly vital on a narrow little mountain trail.
Horses by nature are all about self-preservation.
It's the essence of them, and inherent upon us to recognize and honor this truth.
Think if rather than 'how do I get this movement to happen' we thought about it this way. About how we can help the horse feel, rather than what we want to make them 'do.'
Horses, through their very nature want...To be secure. Familiar and confident with us, with themselves, and the environment.
We don't realize how much the horse wants to be okay, to feel good.
That relational aspect of being with horses needs to come from us.
We expect the horse to make up the equation but it comes from us.
We take so much for granted in our dealings with them, but these seemingly simple words pack a wallop; the horse is looking for somebody to be there, moment by moment.
So what does that look like? A horse that is mentally present. Relaxed. Alert.
That's within our part of the relationship.
It's us supporting the horse. If they don't know somethings okay, they won't choose it.
Now that makes you sit up and take notes.
Be a place of peace.
Who doesn't want that? For ourselves, for our horses.
I'm calling this horsemanship from the inside out. I'd love to hear about yours. xoxo